Why is it that most of you men...

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

are the jealous type and I'm not saying ALL you men. But the majority of you are...but why? What do you get out of it? Shouldn't you know your chick that well enough to know she won't do anything.

I know a lot of my guy friends who are jealous, they walk around with their chicks and if a guy happens to stare, they look at their girl as if it was THEIR FAULT, as if they called the guy over on purpose to say Whats up, or to smile at 'em. But if a girl were to catch their guy starring the guy's biggest line is "I'm a man ain't I"

its like wtf...I don't give a fuck if your starring at a guy, don't do it...especially if you're with your girlfriend. Some girls like when they're man gets jealous but c'mon there is a limit. I don't know sometimes I think you men are more sensitive than us women I swear!

[Mafioso]

i'm not so much, i'm the dangler type

"look what i got"

[Mafioso]

nvm i am, look and die, i gotta find some blinders that'll fit her

[Chick-N-Bone]

cuz, i dont want other dogs starin at my girls ass and titties, they can get their own girl, so why they lookin at mine...everyone should know that u dont fuck with other peoples women, but i dont take it out on the girl


you down with OPP??? then fuck u

[ShyLoVe*]

I sorta know what you mean

I don't REALLY have the jealous boyfriend problem, my boyfriend hardly ever gets jealous and sometimes I even TRY to make him jealous on purpose, just to see that he DOES care! lolz

The double standard staring thing is completely unfair. So what if you're a guy, that doesn't give you permission to stare. I suppose, you and your partner need to come to an understanding as to when it's ok to look and stare.

Like an example.. once, my bf and I were at the gym, he told me about this chick with big boobies and real skinny doing kicks or something and I'm like "true" and then I saw her while I was stretching on the mats and he came over and I'm like "is that her?" and he's like "yeah" and we just started talking about whether or not they were real and whether the guy she was with was trying to move in on her. He was actually surprised I wasn't annoyed about the fact that he was looking at another girl, but man she did have big knockers and I wasn't sure about the guy's intentions.

HOWEVER. There was this one time we were both going to work together and he was just staring and ended up staring at some chick with a mini skirt on who was infront of us. I saw and I swear any longer and drool would've started dripping out of his mouth and I slapped him so hard. That's just rude and disrespectful. Stuff like that totally makes me feel insecure and not good enough (I don't get that reaction from him when I wear a skirt! I don't get droolage!)

Oh man, I don't even know if my reply even fits the topic =/ I'm on lunch, gimme a break =P

[RX King]

Whats ours is ours and AINT going anywhere whether you like it or not :)

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

The double standard staring thing is completely unfair. So what if you're a guy, that doesn't give you permission to stare. I suppose, you and your partner need to come to an understanding as to when it's ok to look and stare.

Like an example.. once, my bf and I were at the gym, he told me about this chick with big boobies and real skinny doing kicks or something and I'm like "true" and then I saw her while I was stretching on the mats and he came over and I'm like "is that her?" and he's like "yeah" and we just started talking about whether or not they were real and whether the guy she was with was trying to move in on her. He was actually surprised I wasn't annoyed about the fact that he was looking at another girl, but man she did have big knockers and I wasn't sure about the guy's intentions.

HOWEVER. There was this one time we were both going to work together and he was just staring and ended up staring at some chick with a mini skirt on who was infront of us. I saw and I swear any longer and drool would've started dripping out of his mouth and I slapped him so hard. That's just rude and disrespectful. Stuff like that totally makes me feel insecure and not good enough (I don't get that reaction from him when I wear a skirt! I don't get droolage!)



OH Man you hit the spot...thats exactly how I feel!!


I mean I don't care if a man looks...I mean a glance is ok...but fuck stare any harder and your eyes will pop out is just disrespectful. Now shit like that makes me mad and makes me wonder if I'm not good enough for him.

It's hard not to look when a girl is sitting there with her tits all hanging out and her thong half showing...ok who wouldn't look...but thats just a look...some guys are just :shock: <-- like that. But if I were to turn and stare @ a guy...and have a smile on my face all hell would brake loose.

You men need to understand guys are going to look no matter if your holding her hand...YOU MEN should know this since if YOU passed by a chick thats fine as fuck...and shes with her man you're asses still would stare. You can't always be with your chick but you should know her well enough to know she would never cheat on you.

I just don't get you guys...its like if he stares at her you come to the conclusion shes flirting with him...but if you stare at a chick its w/e ... at least you're not after her or touching her... its the same shit to a girl. How do you think the other guy feels when he sees you guys checkin out his lady...c'mon you men never think sometimes I swear.

[Chick-N-Bone]

see i dont care if someone stares at my girl, as long as i dont see it and he dont touch, cuz i like lookin at a fine girl but i try not to stare, you have to practice, get some techniques like the cough and look, or turn and glance, or for amatuers sunglasses

[Floppy]

sunglasses


:lloyd:

[Mista Skelah]

It doesnt bother me i take it as a compliment sometimes people may even compliment the guy on the girl its no big deal..

:lloyd:

[trustinme]

My technique: when a girl walks into my direction i just turn around before she walks by:D , if a man doesn't want "his" girl to be stared at he should buy her some more cloths or shouldn't take her outside. I look at whatever woman i want to look at as long as she is dressed like a woman who wants to be looked at, if she wears tight jeans i will stop n stare, if i can see the shape of her boobs i have the right to stare as long as i want and i won't even care if she notices( if she asks me what are you looking at? i'll tell her straight up "im looking at your titties" i don't care but if she dresses normal i won't look and she'll get my respect. Women these days dress up like hoes, they don't have the right to ask someone what he's looking at, let allone their boyfriends. My conclusion: men nor women should be jealous as long as they dress like hoes, end of story.


I will see women as hoes as long as they dress like hoes.
I will see a guy as a policeofficer if he wears a policeuniform.

[200 OK]

i don't really mind the staring thing, but there is a line to everything. you have to be discreet yourself and not disrespect your partner, if you are with someone you love and you keep staring at other women and look like you are drooling, then there is something definately wrong with you. you have to be smart yourself and realize that's not right. it's a very immature thing to do and something very stupid to get into an argument over with your loved one. when it should have never happened in the first place, he/she should already know that's not right.

it all depends from partners, some people don't mind staring at all, some even invite others to have sex. it's just depends what you and your partner come to an agreement with, but if staring or stuff like that, makes you feel disrespected, then your partner should already know not to do it.

[K.Battlezone]

My technique: when a girl walks into my direction i just turn around before she walks by:D , if a man doesn't want "his" girl to be stared at he should buy her some more cloths or shouldn't take her outside. I look at whatever woman i want to look at as long as she is dressed like a woman who wants to be looked at, if she wears tight jeans i will stop n stare, if i can see the shape of her boobs i have the right to stare as long as i want and i won't even care if she notices( if she asks me what are you looking at? i'll tell her straight up "im looking at your titties" i don't care but if she dresses normal i won't look and she'll get my respect. Women these days dress up like hoes, they don't have the right to ask someone what he's looking at, let allone their boyfriends. My conclusion: men nor women should be jealous as long as they dress like hoes, end of story.


I will see women as hoes as long as they dress like hoes.
I will see a guy as a policeofficer if he wears a policeuniform.



MAYNNNN !!!!!! THAT'S MAH NIGGA UP THERE ^^


Plain and simple.. I can look at anything I want she wants to do the same thing she can do so. BUT .. oh yes big but.. whoever I'm with is not gonna be dressed up like a skank. I've been brought up with values and morals. If other girls want to dress like skanks and shit then whatever , she's giving everyone the right to look at her. Don't tell me the father of your local church wouldn't look. Think about it.. if a girl is wearing a shirt that shows most of her tits and she sees someone looking , you think she's gonna try covering up and scream out.. PERVERT !! Fuck no.. bitch wants attention. As I said.. I ain't gone be with a girl that dresses like that. But if guys want to look at my chic or vice versa go for it hope it makes you happier cuz I'm looking at tits too. Ask me.. what you looking at.. Oh i'm looking at tits. Thats that.

[The Architect]

i dont care when they check out my girl...shes a hottie and I know she loves me...

[Gambinos Wrath]

well, thew way I see it, I think alot of you are scared, myself I see it as, if the man loses his girlfriend, or she is looking at other guys, then the boyfriend doesnt have enough game to keep the girlfriend, and thats why she wants to go back on the field to play, its not the guys fault for wanting ur women, we are competitors, its the boyfriends fault if the women is wanting guys to look at her, he isnt satisfying her enough, and SHy, I love you in the skirt, I always get turned on, why do u think I hate those jeans you wear

[Chick-N-Bone]

word... or the girl just dosnt like your scary ass

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

My technique: when a girl walks into my direction i just turn around before she walks by:D , if a man doesn't want "his" girl to be stared at he should buy her some more cloths or shouldn't take her outside. I look at whatever woman i want to look at as long as she is dressed like a woman who wants to be looked at, if she wears tight jeans i will stop n stare, if i can see the shape of her boobs i have the right to stare as long as i want and i won't even care if she notices( if she asks me what are you looking at? i'll tell her straight up "im looking at your titties" i don't care but if she dresses normal i won't look and she'll get my respect. Women these days dress up like hoes, they don't have the right to ask someone what he's looking at, let allone their boyfriends. My conclusion: men nor women should be jealous as long as they dress like hoes, end of story.


I will see women as hoes as long as they dress like hoes.
I will see a guy as a policeofficer if he wears a policeuniform.


ugh man you gotta be kidding me :rolleyes:
Typical male...always thinking with his other head.

[K.Battlezone]

^^He's not kidding at all. Now respect him you woman.

[ShyLoVe*]

well, thew way I see it, I think alot of you are scared, myself I see it as, if the man loses his girlfriend, or she is looking at other guys, then the boyfriend doesnt have enough game to keep the girlfriend, and thats why she wants to go back on the field to play, its not the guys fault for wanting ur women, we are competitors, its the boyfriends fault if the women is wanting guys to look at her, he isnt satisfying her enough, and SHy, I love you in the skirt, I always get turned on, why do u think I hate those jeans you wear
I know, I know.

The second example occured BEFORE the first. Go figure :P

[trustinme]

No i'm not kidding, why am i a typical male? because i get horny when i see half naked girls, that's normal. I'm not ghey. Nature is all about having sex and surviving. Girls like it as much as we do, in fact even more, they can have multiple orgasms and all we get is a lousy 10 second orgasm. I'm not acting like i figured out how girls work, i figured out how nature works. Nature of men=fuck lots of girls, Nature of women=get a strong handsome man because he has top notch quality cum than search for a kind man who is nice,educated and rich enough and use him to raise the children. That is the truth and it will allways be, so im not gonna be the man thats gonna be utilised for his money or kindness. I will be the man that humps on the back of a woman and ride it like a horse, thats my nature. Now don't deny you like big dicks to cum in your vagina. Maybe your asshole if it gets boring after a while.

[blaqbabi]

i don't really mind the staring thing, but there is a line to everything. you have to be discreet yourself and not disrespect your partner, if you are with someone you love and you keep staring at other women and look like you are drooling, then there is something definately wrong with you. you have to be smart yourself and realize that's not right. it's a very immature thing to do and something very stupid to get into an argument over with your loved one. when it should have never happened in the first place, he/she should already know that's not right.

it all depends from partners, some people don't mind staring at all, some even invite others to have sex. it's just depends what you and your partner come to an agreement with, but if staring or stuff like that, makes you feel disrespected, then your partner should already know not to do it.

Definitely agree w/u. A lot of yall had good points. I know my man will look @ other women he thinks r fine but don't go as far as lusting and the like; and definitely do not look @ someone in "that way" while I am w/u. Like u said, it's different 4 every1 & where/how they r w/their partner.

[ShyLoVe*]

No i'm not kidding, why am i a typical male? because i get horny when i see half naked girls, that's normal. I'm not ghey.
No one said you were gay.

Nature is all about having sex and surviving. Girls like it as much as we do, in fact even more, they can have multiple orgasms and all we get is a lousy 10 second orgasm. I'm not acting like i figured out how girls work, i figured out how nature works.
This is not the caveman era, we do not have to multiply to "survive". We are at the top of the food chain, we do not have predators that will "hunt" after our offspring. We do not need to have as many children as we can because there's the risk of them getting eaten.

Nature of men=fuck lots of girls, Nature of women=get a strong handsome man because he has top notch quality cum than search for a kind man who is nice,educated and rich enough and use him to raise the children.
The main purpose to intercourse is to reproduce. I don't have a cum-metre, I don't know whether or not my partner has the top notch quality cum, that's not what women tend to look for in a man. I don't run fertility tests on men and "possible" daddies.

That is the truth and it will allways be, so im not gonna be the man thats gonna be utilised for his money or kindness. I will be the man that humps on the back of a woman and ride it like a horse, thats my nature. Now don't deny you like big dicks to cum in your vagina. Maybe your asshole if it gets boring after a while.
Yeah of course, sex is great, and a great feeling, who said it wasn't.

I think what Ruthless Ryder meant when she said "typical male, thinking with your other head" is, SO WHAT if the woman's jugs are popping out of her shirt, so what if she's wearing a teeny tiny skirt with half her ass hanging.. learn some self control. Just because you missed out on looking at that woman's tits and ass DOES NOT mean the whole world is gonna end and it's NOT the end of the human race if men don't fuck as many girls as they can and spread their top notch sperm. You are a typical male because all you ever think about is your penis and who you can fuck next.

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

I think what Ruthless Ryder meant when she said "typical male, thinking with your other head" is, SO WHAT if the woman's jugs are popping out of her shirt, so what if she's wearing a teeny tiny skirt with half her ass hanging.. learn some self control. Just because you missed out on looking at that woman's tits and ass DOES NOT mean the whole world is gonna end and it's NOT the end of the human race if men don't fuck as many girls as they can and spread their top notch sperm. You are a typical male because all you ever think about is your penis and who you can fuck next.


EXACTLY!!!! It about time someone understand where i'm getting at. It's like you men think that the next girl who passes by with a short skirt and small shirt showing her ass and tits is the ONLY girl who does that...then you turn around and see another and forget about the frist girl. What makes you men think that , that girl is even going to give you a tiny bit of a chance. Like I said...I don't mind if the man just takes a little glance but shit...pull it together! What pisses me off the most, is that most you men that DO have women...if they were to even come close to dressing like those girls who catch your eye...you would slap the shit of 'em. SO how are the women suppose to feel...??? Your girl wants to dress nice for you...make you proud of what you got...takes time on her make up...her hair, and her clothes. Then goes to see you...hoping you notice something different about herself, but then a girl passes by dressed more sluttier and you stare and her more than your own girl. But if you're girl were to try to dress like that you'd get all defensive and ask why ..who you trying to get stare at you blah blah blah, you men are never satisified. Then when you do lose us you regret it and come back asking us for another chance...BULLSHIT!! You guys think we'll take you're asses back...I don't think so.

[Mafioso]

bla blah, you wanna look nice for me get nekkid, when you're out by yourself dress with heavy jackets, if i'm with you: i'll let you know whats appropriate


the end

[trustinme]

^shylove, i didn't say anybody said i was ghey. I was talking about subconsciousness, we still have the same instincts as 10.000 years ago but in other forms, hunting became having a fulltime job. A caveman slapping a female knock out to take her to his cave has become a dude getting a woman drunk in a club n than taking her to a motel to have sex with her. Oh and being at the top of our food chain isn't doing us any good. Humans as a collective still need to reproduce to survive. There's still the risk for children to be eaten ( they need to be strong and independant when they step into the 'real' world in order to become a succesfull person ) The main purpose of sexual intercourse is to 'succesfully' reproduce, you don't run fertility tests, your subconscious does. Why do you think you like handsome strong guys? It's because you know your offspring will probably be succesfull. Magnets attract metal, i can't say to my penis 'don't get hard, learn to control yourself', it's just nature. As long as there's nothing covering the magnet i'm gonna stay attracted.

"You are a typical male because all you ever think about is your penis and who you can fuck next", i am a typical male because i am a male.

To ruthless ryda: "Your girl wants to dress nice for you...make you proud of what you got...takes time on her make up...her hair, and her clothes. Then goes to see you...hoping you notice something different about herself" There's nothin wrong with that,it's actually very cute if she wants to make 'ME' happy and not countless other guys. But for real it's not only about jealousy it's also a form of disrespect to other people by dressing halfnaked, do you want to be the reason an other girl is gonna feel sad cause her bf feels attracted to you and i mean not only in her presence. And what about the man that can't get none, it's like eating in front of a poor man and not giving him any piece, it's called teasing which is very disrespectfull. Realise that you are the reason for his sexuality too, not only his instinct, a woman's body has allot of power and allot of women are abusing that power and when a man gets horny they act like he's a filthy pervert. Now let's bounce it back to you, you women are never satisfied too, when a man is working hard to earn money,"he's never at home" and when he's not wortking,"he isn't doing shit for this family". So how are these men suppose to feel, he's working hard to earn money...make you glad that you are still living...takes time to wake up(early in the morning)...washes his hair, puts on his clothes..goes to his job hoping his boss will give him promotion so he can make his wife even more proud but than an old friend comes by while he's at work, sucks his dick harder than her own husband. But when her husband comes home late in the evening and wants to get it on, she refuses"not now honey i'm on my period or "im too tired". You women are never satisfied. Than when you do lose us, you don't even care, you just want 'HALf!'. See how easy it is to generalise, it's useless, both women and men are wrong in allot of situations. Now holla back.

[PoPo1999]

^word. People need to realize that genetics/instincts r the blueprints for life. Everything people do has some kind of logic behind it, genetically or instinctually. Women want to mate with the alpha males, and alpha males want women capable of carrying and bearing healthy children. Good bones(sharp features)/good skin/good muscular structure signal healthy, strong males... Nice strong hips(carrying offspring), breasts(feeding offspring) and a feminine facial strucure signify healthy females. They have sex and have healthy offspring... The cycle continues..

[MasterMind]

i agree with the last 2 guys in this thread :-D

[JoKir]

Man i dont care if a guy looks glances or shit like that, he can jock all he wants as long as he isnt rude or tries to approach my girl, that shit just makes me proud and be like, "Yea she's mine playa, u wish u knew what she was about" . I think girls are alot more jealous but thats with plenty of reasons cuz i know most of us guys give our girls shit to worry about and girls know how scandalous girls are too. U tell a girl that u have a girl and that shit seems to just make it funner for them lol, like they like tha challenge, crazy shit

[ThugQueen=)]

are the jealous type and I'm not saying ALL you men. But the majority of you are...but why? What do you get out of it? Shouldn't you know your chick that well enough to know she won't do anything.

I know a lot of my guy friends who are jealous, they walk around with their chicks and if a guy happens to stare, they look at their girl as if it was THEIR FAULT, as if they called the guy over on purpose to say Whats up, or to smile at 'em. But if a girl were to catch their guy starring the guy's biggest line is "I'm a man ain't I"

its like wtf...I don't give a fuck if your starring at a guy, don't do it...especially if you're with your girlfriend. Some girls like when they're man gets jealous but c'mon there is a limit. I don't know sometimes I think you men are more sensitive than us women I swear!
That's pretty much true!

[Lost Soul]

if a mans like that he's insecure lol for me its like a compliment, shows ya girl looks good, but if another guy holla's at her then its his ass unless she was flirting then its fuck that hoe

[Pibb]

it really dont matter if someone strares cuz someone could try to talk my main while im right there next her and i wont say shit, cuz what she decides is her decision and i cant influence it

but i know she aint gonna go for it cuz she infatuated with me, and if she ever does, its not like shes the only female in my life and its always easy to find another bitch to manipulate and change into the ideal woman

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

if a mans like that he's insecure lol for me its like a compliment, shows ya girl looks good, but if another guy holla's at her then its his ass unless she was flirting then its fuck that hoe


You do have a point...I think some of you men are just insecure about yourselves which is why you're so uptight when it comes to the girl. But why do you look at other women? To make yourselves look good, thinking you can get anyone you want??? Don't you men have enough trust in your lady to understand she would never cheat...or be a hoe like that...you should know from the 1st time you met your lady how she is. But ok I can admit..some girls are sneaky, some girls could hide it good, but w/e thats on them. You men judge every girl assuming they're all cheaters, but thats not the case. Not ALL women are the same...some of us do think differently, some of us do care. We are not all fucked up, just like you men say not all you guys are horn dogs.

[Pibb]

But why do you look at other women? To make yourselves look good, thinking you can get anyone you want???

when im with my main and that happens i just let her know that the other chicc was lookin good so i stared but the real reason is i wanna fucc that other bitch cuz i know i can, and yes i KNOW i can get any female i want cuz its all about the treatment you show and the words you use to express yourself

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

But why do you look at other women? To make yourselves look good, thinking you can get anyone you want???

when im with my main and that happens i just let her know that the other chicc was lookin good so i stared but the real reason is i wanna fucc that other bitch cuz i know i can, and yes i KNOW i can get any female i want cuz its all about the treatment you show and the words you use to express yourself

:rolleyes: spare me

[Mafioso]

lol word^ mad disrespekin


i look at hot girls, i look at hot cars too, if something is visually attractive i look, i don't say to my girl "now that bitch is perfect, take notes" oh and i don't stare at anything, not even tight cars i always think somone will think i'm looking wierd at them and get offended.... i go through about six or seven mental scenarios involving me fighting someone everyday..... purranoid

[Darkchild]

People are always gonna look.

I'm not the jealous type anymore, i used to be pretty jealous, but now i really dont care all that much.

People look, who am i to stop them? I mean, i look at other chicks, just like my girls look at other guys. I mean, if i'm with my girl and other guys look at her, i feel proud :-) Cuz she's mine, i know she ain't goin nowhere. Majority of people have enough respect to just look and not try anything, it's the fuckwits who try to get her number and shit that just give me the shits, i mean, i don't get jealous, they just piss me off, becuz they should have enough respect to not try that shit.

Like one of my girls ex's i didnt have a problem with, until i read this one msg he sent her

"I miss your naughty mind and ur sexy body"

What made it worse is that my girl didnt tell me about the msg and when i asked her if i could go thru her fone (cuz she went thru mine), that was in there.. I was like WHAT THE FUCK, because that guy knew all about me, and he even had a girlfriend at that time.. So i'm like, that dude is just disrespecting me, if i ever see him i'ma whoop his ass..

So yeh, in conclusion, i dont get jealous :-)

[momurda1999]

Dudes get jelous on purpose...theres always some reason..i myself get jelous sometimes but its nothin' big

[*~Ruthless Ryda~*]

People look, who am i to stop them? I mean, i look at other chicks, just like my girls look at other guys. I mean, if i'm with my girl and other guys look at her, i feel proud :-) Cuz she's mine, i know she ain't goin nowhere. Majority of people have enough respect to just look and not try anything, it's the fuckwits who try to get her number and shit that just give me the shits, i mean, i don't get jealous, they just piss me off, becuz they should have enough respect to not try that shit

Couldn't agree with you more...but most men figure they're starring at the girl because the girl did something to get their attention. Then it goes back to insecurity on the mans part...they're to insecure and when a guy looks at their girl...they're afraid the girl is going to leave him for something better...some guys need to grow some balls.

[Darkchild]

some guys need to grow some balls.


Thats real :lloyd:

[200 OK]

People look, who am i to stop them? I mean, i look at other chicks, just like my girls look at other guys. I mean, if i'm with my girl and other guys look at her, i feel proud :-) Cuz she's mine, i know she ain't goin nowhere. Majority of people have enough respect to just look and not try anything, it's the fuckwits who try to get her number and shit that just give me the shits, i mean, i don't get jealous, they just piss me off, becuz they should have enough respect to not try that shit

Couldn't agree with you more...but most men figure they're starring at the girl because the girl did something to get their attention. Then it goes back to insecurity on the mans part...they're to insecure and when a guy looks at their girl...they're afraid the girl is going to leave him for something better...some guys need to grow some balls.
that's a very bad example, i don't know where you got that from, but i must say it's a very bad stereotype. if anything, you are showing your insecure side about men. you've got some growing up to do yourself instead of complaining about childish stuff. what the fuck is jealousy anyway, that's childish. they say with age comes knowledge, you will know what i am talking about, when you get a little older. if your boyfriend is looking at other girls while he is with you and trying to talk to them (meaning hook up with them). then he is not a very honest person. he probably does that on purpose too, cause he knows it pisses you off. if he really loved you that much and cared about you, he wouldn't look at other chicks or try to hook up with them.

when me and my girl are out in public, i don't do stuff to attract other females and she doesn't do stuff to attract other guys, we trust each other, because when you do stuff like that, you loose trust of your partner. it's immature. i am not talking about controlling her or her controlling me, it's just a matter of trust and respect for each other. i know she wouldn't do something that's really immature. even if she cheats on me with someone else, i am not gonna get mad or say "oh, baby, why did you that to me?" lol, it's just showing how immature she really is and i am not gonna get mad. i just go on about doing my thing and let her go about doing her thing.

i try to stay away from girls that bring nothing but drama :). once you go out with a girl and she starts telling you all this drama, it's like ok, it's very nice meeting you, have a nice day.

i don't let drama stress me out. i move on with my life, i don't give a shit about anything.

[Felix Hernandez]

Basically every evolutionary psychologist you'll find agrees that a modicum of jealousy is indeed a good thing. Jealousy is primal, just as fucking is. You don't see lions standing idly by as another lion eyes the lioness.

To bring it to a modern example, a little bit of jealousy is what keeps us on our toes. It's what keeps that "A game" going. It's what makes us show a woman that we care, or call her up for no other reason than to tell her how beautiful she is. It's why we send flowers. It's why we open car doors.

If men knew, 100%, that their woman would never, under any circumstance, stray, and either cheat, or leave them completely, we wouldn't do virtually any of the things we do. From a primal standpoint, we're here just for procreation. We want the mother of our offspring to stick around and ensure that they grow up healthy. We don't know that women are going to stick around though. That little bit of jealousy, that's what keeps us doing things to ensure that she sticks around, so she knows she's with the right person.

David Buss wrote a great book on jealousy, called "The Dangerous Passion: Why jealousy is necessary in love and sex."

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0747553602/qid=1120204148/sr=8-22/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i8_xgl14/102-4587288-3586510?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Link to it.

[200 OK]

Basically every evolutionary psychologist you'll find agrees that a modicum of jealousy is indeed a good thing. Jealousy is primal, just as fucking is. You don't see lions standing idly by as another lion eyes the lioness.

To bring it to a modern example, a little bit of jealousy is what keeps us on our toes. It's what keeps that "A game" going. It's what makes us show a woman that we care, or call her up for no other reason than to tell her how beautiful she is. It's why we send flowers. It's why we open car doors.

If men knew, 100%, that their woman would never, under any circumstance, stray, and either cheat, or leave them completely, we wouldn't do virtually any of the things we do. From a primal standpoint, we're here just for procreation. We want the mother of our offspring to stick around and ensure that they grow up healthy. We don't know that women are going to stick around though. That little bit of jealousy, that's what keeps us doing things to ensure that she sticks around, so she knows she's with the right person.

David Buss wrote a great book on jealousy, called "The Dangerous Passion: Why jealousy is necessary in love and sex."

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0747553602/qid=1120204148/sr=8-22/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i8_xgl14/102-4587288-3586510?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Link to it.
yes, a little jealousy is good and you are right that is what keeps up going, but jealousy to the point where it destroys a relationship, and what these people are talking about it's not even jealousy. it's being used for the wrong purpose, i don't know if that makes any sense :frozzy:.

also, you can say good and bad things about jealousy, whether you think it's good or bad that's your opinion. some people might say jealousy it's bad because it causes a lot of conflict, just because a book says jealousy is good, doesn't mean it's good. i am sure you know it too, but i just wanted to point that out ;-). i think we can agree with one thing that there are always good and bad things, some use it to help them motivate or improve their life, while others use it to do evil deeds maybe. we don't know if it's good or bad, it's up to you for what purpose to use it. we don't know if it's benefiting us more or destroying us more.

[ShyLoVe*]

Basically every evolutionary psychologist you'll find agrees that a modicum of jealousy is indeed a good thing. Jealousy is primal, just as fucking is. You don't see lions standing idly by as another lion eyes the lioness.

To bring it to a modern example, a little bit of jealousy is what keeps us on our toes. It's what keeps that "A game" going. It's what makes us show a woman that we care, or call her up for no other reason than to tell her how beautiful she is. It's why we send flowers. It's why we open car doors.

If men knew, 100%, that their woman would never, under any circumstance, stray, and either cheat, or leave them completely, we wouldn't do virtually any of the things we do. From a primal standpoint, we're here just for procreation. We want the mother of our offspring to stick around and ensure that they grow up healthy. We don't know that women are going to stick around though. That little bit of jealousy, that's what keeps us doing things to ensure that she sticks around, so she knows she's with the right person.

David Buss wrote a great book on jealousy, called "The Dangerous Passion: Why jealousy is necessary in love and sex."

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0747553602/qid=1120204148/sr=8-22/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i8_xgl14/102-4587288-3586510?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Link to it.
that's a very good example, I like it.

Without jealousy, we'd take our partner's for granted.

[Felix Hernandez]

Basically every evolutionary psychologist you'll find agrees that a modicum of jealousy is indeed a good thing. Jealousy is primal, just as fucking is. You don't see lions standing idly by as another lion eyes the lioness.

To bring it to a modern example, a little bit of jealousy is what keeps us on our toes. It's what keeps that "A game" going. It's what makes us show a woman that we care, or call her up for no other reason than to tell her how beautiful she is. It's why we send flowers. It's why we open car doors.

If men knew, 100%, that their woman would never, under any circumstance, stray, and either cheat, or leave them completely, we wouldn't do virtually any of the things we do. From a primal standpoint, we're here just for procreation. We want the mother of our offspring to stick around and ensure that they grow up healthy. We don't know that women are going to stick around though. That little bit of jealousy, that's what keeps us doing things to ensure that she sticks around, so she knows she's with the right person.

David Buss wrote a great book on jealousy, called "The Dangerous Passion: Why jealousy is necessary in love and sex."

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0747553602/qid=1120204148/sr=8-22/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i8_xgl14/102-4587288-3586510?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Link to it.
yes, a little jealousy is good and you are right that is what keeps up going, but jealousy to the point where it destroys a relationship, and what these people are talking about it's not even jealousy. it's being used for the wrong purpose, i don't know if that makes any sense :frozzy:.

also, you can say good and bad things about jealousy, whether you think it's good or bad that's your opinion. some people might say jealousy it's bad because it causes a lot of conflict, just because a book says jealousy is good, doesn't mean it's good. i am sure you know it too, but i just wanted to point that out ;-). i think we can agree with one thing that there are always good and bad things, some use it to help them motivate or improve their life, while others use it to do evil deeds maybe. we don't know if it's good or bad, it's up to you for what purpose to use it. we don't know if it's benefiting us more or destroying us more.

I think jealousy is good, plain and simple. When it goes beyond healthy jealousy, as I was talking about, it ceases to be jealousy, it becomes more malicious paranoia.

Let's say I come home from work, and I'm talking with my wife/girlfriend, and I mention another girl from work. Now let's say she jokingly says something about the co-worker, more of a mock jealousy. Obviously the she is not terribly concerned. There's no real percieved threat. But she might be inclined to become playful, or do something nice for me. Even though she's not overtly jealous, and doesn't truly believe that I'd go for the co-worker, that little hint of jealousy is likely to make her do something to let me know how wonderful she is, just to make sure that I haven't the slightest inclination to stray.

Now let's say she responds to my same comments about my co-worker, but she gets upset, and starts questioning my loyalty. That's not jealousy. That's paranoia. That's the act of someone who is genuinely concerned that I might stray from her side for another woman. Obviously, that's not good. I don't consider that jealousy, even though in the strictest sense that's what it would be called.

Just say the words, jealousy and paranoia, and you can just FEEL the difference in the words. Jealousy is easy, it's soft. The j just rolls off the tongue, it almost floats off. Then there's paranoia, which has a hard, popping p to start with. The word is just busy, four syllables. It's heavy, as if weighed down.

[milkbone123]

Basically every evolutionary psychologist you'll find agrees that a modicum of jealousy is indeed a good thing. Jealousy is primal, just as fucking is. You don't see lions standing idly by as another lion eyes the lioness.

To bring it to a modern example, a little bit of jealousy is what keeps us on our toes. It's what keeps that "A game" going. It's what makes us show a woman that we care, or call her up for no other reason than to tell her how beautiful she is. It's why we send flowers. It's why we open car doors.

If men knew, 100%, that their woman would never, under any circumstance, stray, and either cheat, or leave them completely, we wouldn't do virtually any of the things we do. From a primal standpoint, we're here just for procreation. We want the mother of our offspring to stick around and ensure that they grow up healthy. We don't know that women are going to stick around though. That little bit of jealousy, that's what keeps us doing things to ensure that she sticks around, so she knows she's with the right person.

David Buss wrote a great book on jealousy, called "The Dangerous Passion: Why jealousy is necessary in love and sex."

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0747553602/qid=1120204148/sr=8-22/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i8_xgl14/102-4587288-3586510?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Link to it.
yes, a little jealousy is good and you are right that is what keeps up going, but jealousy to the point where it destroys a relationship, and what these people are talking about it's not even jealousy. it's being used for the wrong purpose, i don't know if that makes any sense :frozzy:.

also, you can say good and bad things about jealousy, whether you think it's good or bad that's your opinion. some people might say jealousy it's bad because it causes a lot of conflict, just because a book says jealousy is good, doesn't mean it's good. i am sure you know it too, but i just wanted to point that out ;-). i think we can agree with one thing that there are always good and bad things, some use it to help them motivate or improve their life, while others use it to do evil deeds maybe. we don't know if it's good or bad, it's up to you for what purpose to use it. we don't know if it's benefiting us more or destroying us more.

I think jealousy is good, plain and simple. When it goes beyond healthy jealousy, as I was talking about, it ceases to be jealousy, it becomes more malicious paranoia.

Let's say I come home from work, and I'm talking with my wife/girlfriend, and I mention another girl from work. Now let's say she jokingly says something about the co-worker, more of a mock jealousy. Obviously the she is not terribly concerned. There's no real percieved threat. But she might be inclined to become playful, or do something nice for me. Even though she's not overtly jealous, and doesn't truly believe that I'd go for the co-worker, that little hint of jealousy is likely to make her do something to let me know how wonderful she is, just to make sure that I haven't the slightest inclination to stray.

Now let's say she responds to my same comments about my co-worker, but she gets upset, and starts questioning my loyalty. That's not jealousy. That's paranoia. That's the act of someone who is genuinely concerned that I might stray from her side for another woman. Obviously, that's not good. I don't consider that jealousy, even though in the strictest sense that's what it would be called.

Just say the words, jealousy and paranoia, and you can just FEEL the difference in the words. Jealousy is easy, it's soft. The j just rolls off the tongue, it almost floats off. Then there's paranoia, which has a hard, popping p to start with. The word is just busy, four syllables. It's heavy, as if weighed down.

Good stuff, enjoy reading that, couldn't agree more.

[200 OK]

Basically every evolutionary psychologist you'll find agrees that a modicum of jealousy is indeed a good thing. Jealousy is primal, just as fucking is. You don't see lions standing idly by as another lion eyes the lioness.

To bring it to a modern example, a little bit of jealousy is what keeps us on our toes. It's what keeps that "A game" going. It's what makes us show a woman that we care, or call her up for no other reason than to tell her how beautiful she is. It's why we send flowers. It's why we open car doors.

If men knew, 100%, that their woman would never, under any circumstance, stray, and either cheat, or leave them completely, we wouldn't do virtually any of the things we do. From a primal standpoint, we're here just for procreation. We want the mother of our offspring to stick around and ensure that they grow up healthy. We don't know that women are going to stick around though. That little bit of jealousy, that's what keeps us doing things to ensure that she sticks around, so she knows she's with the right person.

David Buss wrote a great book on jealousy, called "The Dangerous Passion: Why jealousy is necessary in love and sex."

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0747553602/qid=1120204148/sr=8-22/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i8_xgl14/102-4587288-3586510?v=glance&s=books&n=507846

Link to it.
yes, a little jealousy is good and you are right that is what keeps up going, but jealousy to the point where it destroys a relationship, and what these people are talking about it's not even jealousy. it's being used for the wrong purpose, i don't know if that makes any sense :frozzy:.

also, you can say good and bad things about jealousy, whether you think it's good or bad that's your opinion. some people might say jealousy it's bad because it causes a lot of conflict, just because a book says jealousy is good, doesn't mean it's good. i am sure you know it too, but i just wanted to point that out ;-). i think we can agree with one thing that there are always good and bad things, some use it to help them motivate or improve their life, while others use it to do evil deeds maybe. we don't know if it's good or bad, it's up to you for what purpose to use it. we don't know if it's benefiting us more or destroying us more.

I think jealousy is good, plain and simple. When it goes beyond healthy jealousy, as I was talking about, it ceases to be jealousy, it becomes more malicious paranoia.

Let's say I come home from work, and I'm talking with my wife/girlfriend, and I mention another girl from work. Now let's say she jokingly says something about the co-worker, more of a mock jealousy. Obviously the she is not terribly concerned. There's no real percieved threat. But she might be inclined to become playful, or do something nice for me. Even though she's not overtly jealous, and doesn't truly believe that I'd go for the co-worker, that little hint of jealousy is likely to make her do something to let me know how wonderful she is, just to make sure that I haven't the slightest inclination to stray.

Now let's say she responds to my same comments about my co-worker, but she gets upset, and starts questioning my loyalty. That's not jealousy. That's paranoia. That's the act of someone who is genuinely concerned that I might stray from her side for another woman. Obviously, that's not good. I don't consider that jealousy, even though in the strictest sense that's what it would be called.

Just say the words, jealousy and paranoia, and you can just FEEL the difference in the words. Jealousy is easy, it's soft. The j just rolls off the tongue, it almost floats off. Then there's paranoia, which has a hard, popping p to start with. The word is just busy, four syllables. It's heavy, as if weighed down.
yeah, that's what i was trying to say, what these people are talking about, it's not even jealousy, it's more like paranoia like you said. i know jealousy can be good, it's good that use it to help you improve or make your life better or happier or whatever it may be, but for some people it starts off with jealousy then it turns into paranoia...you see my point? therefore it causes conflicts. it may be good to you, but for some it may prove to be troublesome. jealousy doesn't only do that to relationships, it's in everyday life as well.

[200 OK]

also, your example of jealousy, wasn't really jealousy. it's more like a playful joke or teasing around, which everyone does that. like i said before, it all comes down to trust, when you trust your partner then you joke around, play around, which equals to a fun relationship.

let's see you mention a girl from work to your girl everyday you get home, and we'll see how well your relationship will go ;-). you have to be discreet and know how to use and when to use it. this is life, we ware only humans, so it depends from the mood of the person, you put it out there as a joke, but she might think it wasn't a very good joke. she might get offended, again you see my point how jealousy can turn into something else.

[Felix Hernandez]

also, your example of jealousy, wasn't really jealousy. it's more like a playful joke or teasing around, which everyone does that. like i said before, it all comes down to trust, when you trust your partner then you joke around, play around, which equals to a fun relationship.

let's see you mention a girl from work to your girl everyday you get home, and we'll see how well your relationship will go ;-). you have to be discreet and know how to use and when to use it. this is life, we ware only humans, so it depends from the mood of the person, you put it out there as a joke, but she might think it wasn't a very good joke. she might get offended, again you see my point how jealousy can turn into something else.

Playful jokes/teasing are brought about by jealousy, even if it's minute amounts of it.

[CuttenHeadz]

are the jealous type and I'm not saying ALL you men. But the majority of you are...but why? What do you get out of it? Shouldn't you know your chick that well enough to know she won't do anything.

I know a lot of my guy friends who are jealous, they walk around with their chicks and if a guy happens to stare, they look at their girl as if it was THEIR FAULT, as if they called the guy over on purpose to say Whats up, or to smile at 'em. But if a girl were to catch their guy starring the guy's biggest line is "I'm a man ain't I"

its like wtf...I don't give a fuck if your starring at a guy, don't do it...especially if you're with your girlfriend. Some girls like when they're man gets jealous but c'mon there is a limit. I don't know sometimes I think you men are more sensitive than us women I swear!

Kats be POSSESIVE and INSECURE tryen to hide their emotional attachment....keep it real lolz

I mean U cant trust NOBODY 100% all da time but c'mon...if U dun trust her den why U even fucken wit her na mean

[predatoree]

i dont care when they check out my girl...shes a hottie and I know she loves me...
my thoughts exactly. my girl got love for me and i got love for her too. its whole you trust me, and i trust you. aint matter if a man wana eye my woman, just like a chain you flaunt. its there to look at, you touch it, your ass gettin faded. my girl gets more mad then i do if a chick checks me out then if i catch a du checkin her out. but im not the jealous type so i ono. might just be me thas like that.