ShyLoVe*
07-28-2005, 07:27 PM
It's the paradox of being part of a long-term couple: though your devotion to each other is deep, at some point, the sparks that made you giddy and silly when you first hooked up start to fizzle out. But don't panic, the passion hasn't disappeared altogether - it's just hiding somewhere within you real-life couple routine. "During the first year you're together, your attraction is so new, you get goose bumps just looking at each other," explains Pepper Schwartz, author of Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong. But as time passes, those fireworks start to reveal themselves in different ways. Here, we list the signs of a sexy healthy, thrilling and fulfilling relationship - year two and beyond.
He/she brings out your most dynamic side - when you're with your partner, your self-confidence bumps up a few notches and you feel like you're capable of tackling anything.
In the middle of sex, you look deeply in each other's eyes, and don't turn away.
You fight (occasionally) - If you feel like wringing your partner's neck every so often, don't take it as a bad omen - it's a sign of a healthy relationship.
You still feel tingles of excitement when his/her number comes up on your phone.
You feel tender towards him/her when you see him/her in bed just sleeping.
When a crappy situation strikes, you crave his help - When your first instinct is to turn to him for support and empathy, it shows you ahve a deep trust and respect - two factors that keep love more intense.
You've learnt to love footy! - You know you have an intimately connected relationship when you find yourself so invested in the other person's happiness, you end up getting caught up in pastimes that would otherwise have zero appeal for you.
You've stopped obsessing about his history and have gotten over the fact his ex was a model.
Your PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) aren't OTT (Over The Top) - The seemingly insignificant gestures (casually sweeping a stray hair from the eyes or giving a gentle knee squeeze), require one person to move in on the other's personal space. They suggest the desire for close contact is so strong, you literally can't keep your hands off each other.
You make an effort - Ditching their daggy attire in favour of something a bit sexier, or dressing up when they go out for a meal at their local restaurant. It shows that you want him/her to be attracted to you because you're still attracted to him/her.
Cosmopolitan August Issue 2005
Page 93-94
He/she brings out your most dynamic side - when you're with your partner, your self-confidence bumps up a few notches and you feel like you're capable of tackling anything.
In the middle of sex, you look deeply in each other's eyes, and don't turn away.
You fight (occasionally) - If you feel like wringing your partner's neck every so often, don't take it as a bad omen - it's a sign of a healthy relationship.
You still feel tingles of excitement when his/her number comes up on your phone.
You feel tender towards him/her when you see him/her in bed just sleeping.
When a crappy situation strikes, you crave his help - When your first instinct is to turn to him for support and empathy, it shows you ahve a deep trust and respect - two factors that keep love more intense.
You've learnt to love footy! - You know you have an intimately connected relationship when you find yourself so invested in the other person's happiness, you end up getting caught up in pastimes that would otherwise have zero appeal for you.
You've stopped obsessing about his history and have gotten over the fact his ex was a model.
Your PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) aren't OTT (Over The Top) - The seemingly insignificant gestures (casually sweeping a stray hair from the eyes or giving a gentle knee squeeze), require one person to move in on the other's personal space. They suggest the desire for close contact is so strong, you literally can't keep your hands off each other.
You make an effort - Ditching their daggy attire in favour of something a bit sexier, or dressing up when they go out for a meal at their local restaurant. It shows that you want him/her to be attracted to you because you're still attracted to him/her.
Cosmopolitan August Issue 2005
Page 93-94