the reason why relationships fail

[DRAGONSAMURAI]

alot of people try to over psycho-analyze why a relationship/and or marriage fails.but the truth of the matter is theres a more simplistic mundane reason.


1st reason is the fact that people change,there not the same person you met when you was in school,college or whatever.when people get older their personality changes,their interests and ideology change.so if you relatively stayed the same and your lover didn't or vice versa theres bound to be isssues.


2nd reason people just are'nt compatible.sometimes i feel like people are just with some one because they're of the opposite sex and good looking.yeah thats a exaggeration but i do belive thats how people hook up now and days lol :tongue: .but there has to be more to it than looks and financial income.because if it isn't what you have is not a marrige then.what you have is a business agreement/partnership not a marriage.



what do you guys think?..............

[The-Scorpion]

there has to be more to it than looks and financial income.because if it isn't what you have is not a marrige then.what you have is a business agreement/partnership not a marriage.



what do you guys think?..............one word.....well actually 2 words trophy wife,or husband.eitherway this goes to show you monogamy is man made.keep in mind i'm catholic and i still don't believe in monogamy.i agree with what yous said about people chang,and not being compatible with each other.

[K.Battlezone]

I agree with you. Most women get with dudes cuz they look good and because they got a wad of cash.. same with men. I said this before.. when have you ever seen a janitor with a doctor ? I mean its unheard of. Its ridiculous that people think that way at this age where we're supposed to be more civilized and understanding.

Yes people do change , but if the people were seriously in love with each other , they'd change together. Its a relationship for a reason , two souls become one. That's how sex should be but it isn't, people just wanna bust a nut. People do change but its not like a drastic change where the other person doesn't see it coming. Although I agree with you , if you met them when they was younger of course they'll change , that's why they say not to look for love until after you've grown up, so that drastic changes dont' happen and you fuck up a good thing. I've changed since high school , but it hasn't been a drastic change either, I guess its just on what the person has going on that determines the change.

[Seven1/2Designs]

alot of people try to over psycho-analyze why a relationship/and or marriage fails.but the truth of the matter is theres a more simplistic mundane reason.


1st reason is the fact that people change,there not the same person you met when you was in school,college or whatever.when people get older their personality changes,their interests and ideology change.so if you relatively stayed the same and your lover didn't or vice versa theres bound to be isssues.


2nd reason people just are'nt compatible.sometimes i feel like people are just with some one because they're of the opposite sex and good looking.yeah thats a exaggeration but i do belive thats how people hook up now and days lol :tongue: .but there has to be more to it than looks and financial income.because if it isn't what you have is not a marrige then.what you have is a business agreement/partnership not a marriage.



what do you guys think?..............

one word.....well actually 2 words trophy wife,or husband.eitherway this goes to show you monogamy is man made.keep in mind i'm catholic and i still don't believe in monogamy.i agree with what yous said about people chang,and not being compatible with each other.

I agree with you. Most women get with dudes cuz they look good and because they got a wad of cash.. same with men. I said this before.. when have you ever seen a janitor with a doctor ? I mean its unheard of. Its ridiculous that people think that way at this age where we're supposed to be more civilized and understanding.

Yes people do change , but if the people were seriously in love with each other , they'd change together. Its a relationship for a reason , two souls become one. That's how sex should be but it isn't, people just wanna bust a nut. People do change but its not like a drastic change where the other person doesn't see it coming. Although I agree with you , if you met them when they was younger of course they'll change , that's why they say not to look for love until after you've grown up, so that drastic changes dont' happen and you fuck up a good thing. I've changed since high school , but it hasn't been a drastic change either, I guess its just on what the person has going on that determines the change.

I pretty much agree with everyone's comments. I think about this all the time, actually. I always think about my past relationships with people and why they fail, or don't for that matter. The most important people around me have changed. The thing is, I always somehow change a bit to relate to each and every one of them. My closest cousin has change the most, yet, we're still as close today as we were during preschool. He's changed in ways I wouldn't imagine a few years back, but it's like we still have that connection. My ex that I was with for 8 years changed over the years, aswell. I changed with her, but it's like we changed to fit each other. Which is what King Battlezone was talking about. It was just natural. But in the end, we did have our differences, and it didn't work out. But we're still close friends to this day.

I look at other people, and see what they go through with their own relationships, and I try to benefit from that. I look at it, and see where they went wrong, or see how it 'worked', and put all of that into one ball and use it for myself. I've been playing relationship fixer for a while now, actually. I had to fix relationships for people I actually wanted to be with, in a way. This girl was crying to me for the longest time, yet, I just couldn't allow myself to take advantage of that, so I helped her along the way, and everything is good now.

I hate it when people hook up because of popularity, or income and all that nonsense. To me, that's why we have ignorant kids in this world. They were produced by ignorant parents who later split because they realized there's nothing really keeping them together anymore.

Good thread, man... :thumbup:

[DRAGONSAMURAI]

I look at other people, and see what they go through with their own relationships, and I try to benefit from that. I look at it, and see where they went wrong, or see how it 'worked', and put all of that into one ball and use it for myself. took a page from my own play book



Good thread, man... :thumbup:thanx........

[atiba]

Yeah i agree ppl change over time sometimes 4 the better and sometimes for the worse.
An Ex of mine said i changed once,she said i became untrustworthy,but i dont know.Dats how llife is ,u either grow 2gether or apart.I guess the lesson is 2 choose ur partner carefully,less emphasis should be placed on material shit and more on what type of person u want 2 be wit.

[K.Battlezone]

^exactly... but people don't want that.. they want material shit

[atiba]

Dats why their f*cked.Dey goin to continue to look 4 the guy/girl with the latests/most expensive sh*t and ignore the persons ways.And when dey find out that their partner is an asshole dey ask why them.Half the time the right person is right there in front of them but dey get blinded by the bling.

[itfeeds]

It all comes down to Human nature. Humans are not meant to be with 1 mate thier whole life. It's our genes that make us lose interest with one another. We are breeders and we spread fast it's our make up. Once a man has had kids they feel subconciously they need to continue it's rather primal but very true.

[K.Battlezone]

No that's not human nature. Back then it was more conservative. the 60's came and everything fucked up. Now everyone's cheating and having more than one chic or dude, can't keep their dicks in their pants. Its not human nature.. i don't think there's a word for it , but its not human nature. I say this because there ARE people who truly love and who truly wouldn't hurt another human being like this or who work hard for a relationship to work. For you to say after they have kids they feel subconsciouly they need to continue is wrong. Its not primal , thats the shit that was put on their mind by television , the media and our culture in general. There are still people who are conservative and think the way their grandparents did.

[itfeeds]

K B not to be a dick but your thinking is shallow. How do you think people interacted with one another back when the human race first started. They acted like monkey's do now. If anything... organized religion fucked things up if that's the way you wanna put it. It wasn't the 60s you act like the human race started when white european's raided my folks country. Just because you back up white christian beliefs doesn't mean they are accurate. The world didn't start when Christ was born a lot of people think this way. IT IS IN YOUR GENE'S. Do you think cavemen where monogamus NO! There was an ALPHA male... Me and he got the bitches then there were meanial lil pricks like yourself waiting for thier shot at the pussy cause they didn't have the nuts to take it from the next caveman. Check out shit bout CroMagnum behavior.:thumbup:

[Gravity]

I agree that those things are part of the reason, but not the biggest part. When you love your parents... or your children... you love them through their changes. We can grow apart even from our own relatives, but when we're close to someone... and committed to keeping our relationship... we manage to work it out. The issue with that of course is that it goes both ways. We choose to be loving to people and we choose to try harder. If we give up on a relationship simply because we lost interest.... that leaves to question how much you really loved the person in the first place. And of course... whether one of your egos is stronger than the supposed love you have for one another.

I agree completely that people seem to start relationships mostly on looks, income, and common interests. Rarely do we look as seriously into goals and values. And although people do change... it think it's usually just a process of being comfortable with one another. Both people are trying hard to be nice and impress the other person.... often to the point of actually masking their true selves. After a couple of years... when the two are comfortable with one another, you learn that she leaves the cap off the tooth paste and her socks on the floor, and that you have a not so nice temper and love to complain just for the hell of it. I think the issue of changing and such happens most often in our younger years when we're still looking for our path and trying to find ourselves. But if a couple breaks up because they husband realizes that his wife doesn't sleep in make up but rather a face mask and rollers.... lol the harsh reality sets in.

I think that most of us watch way too much tv and have this distorted fairy tale image of what marriage is supposed to be. And instead of caring enough to work hard to keep that relationship alive.... we go back out in search of yet another fairy tale.

[K.Battlezone]

K B not to be a dick but your thinking is shallow. How do you think people interacted with one another back when the human race first started. They acted like monkey's do now. If anything... organized religion fucked things up if that's the way you wanna put it. It wasn't the 60s you act like the human race started when white european's raided my folks country. Just because you back up white christian beliefs doesn't mean they are accurate. The world didn't start when Christ was born a lot of people think this way. IT IS IN YOUR GENE'S. Do you think cavemen where monogamus NO! There was an ALPHA male... Me and he got the bitches then there were meanial lil pricks like yourself waiting for thier shot at the pussy cause they didn't have the nuts to take it from the next caveman. Check out shit bout CroMagnum behavior.:thumbup:

Just because you get the bitches how you say doesn't make what you think right. Its not human nature if you and more than half of the men's population believe that its right. Shit was drilled in ya head. Meanial lil pr icks like myself ? I ain't lookin for women. They come to me. If I have a woman and one decides she wants me she can jet cuz the first one got there first. How hard is that ? I bet you jump at every opportunity you get to hit the pussy. If anything the prick is you for not having morals and values , the shit that seperate us from monkeys, which you have just proved that you are. Go hang out with your cavemen friends thanks.

[Harley Quinn]

Well, depending on whether you believe in social Darwinism, the belief that all people evolved from apes; or if you believe that none of that is possible because of further proof of a higher Being creating us to be in His image, all this relationship stuff varies depending on what you choose to believe. I agree with Cesar, that people change overtime because views change, but change isnt drastic, it just feels that way because before, irrelevant issues in relationships didnt matter since they didnt come with responsibilities, but since now as adults you have to be a little more responsible, things will change and views will have changed over time as well, all stem from maturity. Yes, Tv and the media has caused a drastic shift in viewing relationships, because nowadays, theyre not as serious as they once were, people dont take them that way anymore. But thats not how its supposed to be

[The-Scorpion]

No that's not human nature. Back then it was more conservative. the 60's came and everything fucked up..i dissagree men AND women was EXTREMLY unhappy during the 50 and 60's.the only reason that it seemed perfect on the surface was because the status quo was that a woman should be at home in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant.and the men had to be the prototypical patriarche,and sole financial provider.putting alot of pressure on young married men and women.and alot of old fashioned people still thinks this is normal.


the books called "fear of flying" told from a womans perspective,and "the man in the grey flannel suit" told from a mans perspective talks about this. you should try and read them.

[Bone07]

Reasons why relationships fail:

A Partner finds someone "better"
Abusive relationships (verbal, physical)
He say/ She say
Cheating . . .
Family Issues (involving Relatives)
Money Issues
You outgrow each other
Ignorance (from either party)
Lack of Sex. . Which can lead to cheating
Lack of Communication

. . there's more but that's what's on my mind right now

[Kemikal]

i would say problem i would have sometimes is lack of communcation cuz sometimes i be to busy and sometimes i jus talk bout everything that b up in my head that i can think of and then jus sit there look around n shit lol

[shanebone]

great thread, im tired i will respond later!

[Andy Jay]

Reasons why relationships fail..

1. No Trust
2. No Communication
3. No Equality
4. No LOVE

Every reason goes back to one of those four..
"I don't trust her"/"He must be cheating on me"/
"We don't talk anymore"/"He doesn't tell me anything"/
"I wear the pants in this relationship"/"She's so controlling"
and if you got no love, u might as well be in a friendship instead of an intimate relationship..

-Dr. ßLÁЖÁLß

[RRJ]

If anything the prick is you for not having morals and values , the shit that seperate us from monkeys, which you have just proved that you are. Go hang out with your cavemen friends thanks.

Us having morals and values is not what seperates us from monkeys. Us having the understanding to concieve morals and values through our superior intelligence is what seperates us from monkeys.

Great thread by the way. I shall check back in after I read all replies.

[Curiosity87]

I think that the reasons that relationships fail is because of two reasons. First is because you pick someone for the wrong reasons as people have already said. Second you stop appreciating the person and the rekationship in general.

[tekneek_101]

good thread, i was about to dump my gurl in 5 mins anyways LOL....nah but seriously i was

[tekneek_101]

oh and i think relationships fail cause the person or persons change like u said, or u judt get feddup wit the person, i kno it sounds like immature shit, but truth is, u can get feddup of someone quite easily

[Curiosity87]

I think its a lot depper than getting fed up, maybe getting hurt deeply and never really forgiving them, and that could happen with all the little things that build up.